True relationships

I look to see for whats its worth when he called out to me," Aunty! Aunty!" Maldo is always pranking the adults in the house so we all got used to him. I remember one afternoon while his mom was at the back of the yard roasting breadfruit on the outside coal stove, Maldo ran up to her hysterically screaming "oh my gosh, oh my gosh! Mommy there's a lizard on the back of your shirt! His mom being afraid of lizards, frantically jumped up and stepped into the burning coal fire where the breadfruit was being roasted and hurt herself. Of course, this was one of Maldo's prank which caused a great deal of panic and anger that afternoon. He seemed remorseful and penitent at the time; however, that was short lived. He seemed to enjoy every moment of his pranks never mind the frustration they caused. There were 8 of us living in the family house. Our mom and dad, my sister and her family of four. Maldo was my nephew the second of two kids for my sister. He was 10 ye...

Over the last couple of years my life has been a constant rollercoaster - from one challenge to the next. Was it fun? Some of it. However, what I know is that they have made me stronger and taught me lessons I could not have learnt in a classroom. With my desire to become a story of success for myself and family. I am inspired to achieve goals I set.  Education was at the top of 'things to do list' and balancing the demands of family life, businesses and school came with their own challenges. Having to deal with a teenage son was I think my greatest challenge. When your child looks at you and say 'mommy you were no better than me, when you were my age'. It just hits you, at least that struck me and I had to step back and analyze and go into retrospect. Rebellion is a sword of contempt for parents which breeds anger and resentment to whomever dishes it. Disrespect on the other hand destroys a good spirit. Together these negative energies took a toll on my sense of ser...

When I vowed for better or worse, it was conditional. The worse are the things that are beyond our control. This means that issues which cause vexation and disrespect ought not to be considered as part of "For better or worse". A person should not subject themselves to belittlement trying to honor "For better or worse". The worse in my mind were external forces we cannot control. It is really unjust I believe for someone to subject them self to such a thing. The worse  that I vowed to keep was  as we get old together and the body succumb to age and all the things that comes with old age such as sex, strength, productivity and any other you can think of that you have no control over. I will ensure that I discuss Marriage and the  matter of for 'better or worse' with my children; it is imperative that they know from early what is the worse they will  endure and where they will draw the line and they should discuss it with their partner at such time. ...